Book Review: A Different Kind of Happiness
How to Love When You Don’t Feel Like Loving
Everywhere we look, we see evidence that love is in short supply. Terrorists and political corruption, school shootings and troubled marriages, impatient online sniping and character assassination–all point to the fact that we do not know how to love one another as Jesus commanded and modeled. We put our own interests and happiness first, despite the fact that the greatest happiness comes through sacrificial love.
In this book, Dr. Larry Crabb shows readers how to understand the deep and perfect love we are shown by our Creator and Redeemer, and how to pour that love into other people. This love is about more than being nice and serving others. It’s about relating to others in such a way that they feel heard, seen, and valued. This love sacrifices and suffers and keeps loving, even when doing so is costly. This kind of love, says Crabb, is the kind worth fighting for in all of our relationships, and A Different Kind of Happiness shows how to make it a reality.
I’ve taken my time reading through this book. As I’ve attended Dr. Crabb’s School of Spiritual Direction and listened to him teach over the last five years I had a head start on much of the content in this book. And yet, there was so much to absorb, so much to wrestle through in my own life that it took me three months to make my way through A Different Kind of Happiness.
In some of his books Dr. Crabb spends a good deal of time repeating his theme over and over again in new ways to really drive his point home. In this book, I felt like the writing was constantly moving forward with little of the repetition that I expected. Perhaps that is why I slowed down in my reading: I didn’t want to miss a thing.
I especially loved the second half of the book that focuses in on seven questions and their answers (both the answers the Bible gives and the ones that we frequently hear from the enemy).
This is a challenging book, a book for anyone who wants to love like Jesus. It is a book that is desperately needed in a world where we have (at large) forgotten what true love looks like. And it is a book that helps us find the great joy and happiness that real love brings, even when it comes with a significant cost.